Trivial Topher

When I started emailing back and forth with Topher, I really had high hopes.  His emails made me laugh.  He added substance and depth to our conversations.  We shared the same beliefs.  We had common interests... he even played ultimate frisbee multiple times a week... so did I!!  Things were looking quite well for our first date.  With so much to talk about, surely we would enjoy each other's company!  Right?

...right?

After so many other bad dates (and I haven't even shared the one yet that gave me nightmares for months), I had started  to be a bit more picky about who I would choose to date... I was actually even a little bit excited to meet Topher.  We were going to have so much fun!  We were even going to a new restaurant/cafe that I had never tried... more bonus points!

With much anticipation, the day finally arrived.  I drove to The Boiler and as I pulled up, I saw Topher getting out of his car.  He had a big smile on his face... and I was still happy to be there.  First impressions seemed to be going pretty well for both of us.

But then came the rest of the date...
Have you ever had a date that just seemed blah?  There was no connection at all?  Where it was like talking to your classmate's friend?  So you were trying to be polite and still leave a good impression, but not because you cared about what the other person thought?  This is what the rest of the date felt like.  There was nothing inherently wrong with Topher... or our date... but it was all just...

...trivial.

The humor no longer came out.  The depth of conversation moved to the shallow end.  Everything that had made me excited to meet Topher had just vanished.  After lunch, we even drove to a nearby park to throw around a frisbee for a little bit, but even with something we both loved so much, there was absolutely no connection.

Maybe it was just nerves.  Or maybe I was the bad date this time (hard to imagine... I know!).  Maybe my expectations were too high.  Whatever the reason, Topher & I didn't really talk after that.

I almost didn't include Topher's story here, but then I realized... I am sharing my dating experiences... the good, the bad, and the boring. :)  So, even if you haven't had an experience similar to any of my others... most people will be able to relate to Trivial Topher and the shock of boredom that will jolt you into the realization that you are still on a journey and running that 10K (see my very first post for the reference here). I haven't reached the finish line yet, and I'm sure there will be many more trivial dates along the way.  I'm just praying now that all this dating isn't a trivial pursuit. :)

(haha... I know you had to laugh at my Trivial Pursuit joke... I laughed when I thought of it, AND when I typed it.) :)

Coming next... Boring Brian (this one is actually funny, though... not boring) and then... the much anticipated Dinosaur Dave!  Reactions to this story in person range from hysterical laughing to gasps of horror and disbelief... it's one of my favorites to tell for that reason alone.